You don’t. 😑
Sorry for the misleading title but this isn’t one of those “Do it all in 5 simple steps” Medium articles. This is more a collection of questions I have around the perception of high achievers and their (my) anxieties. Feel free to share your opinion with me in the comments.
High achievers — What I’ve heard 💪
Let’s reflect on that term, High Achievers. I have, sometimes, been classify as one but at the same time, I have a definition of them that is not me. What are they? How do you become one? Do you even want to become one?
You see, it seems that for most people high achievers are people that accumulate different jobs and extracurricular activities on top of having a family and social life. So let’s be honest for a minute here. I try to do that every day and I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown at every end of the month (something I have in common with my bank account 🤦🏻).
It also feels that you never really achieve anything. Imagine that your so-called achievement is at the top of a mountain, with this mindset of always pushing limits it feels that your goal gets further and further away. The mountain is growing.
In addition, for me, the term high achiever has a positive meaning and what I just described is quite negative. You are basically trying to chug stuff in your life until you explode. According to James Clear, you can represent your life with 4 burners and only 2 burners can simultaneously run at full power:
- The first burner represents your family.
- The second burner is your friends.
- The third burner is your health.
- The fourth burner is your work.
It is a great read about work-life balance and it gives an uneasy perspective on success. I have a quite optimistic vision of success, so it shook a little but there is definitely truth there.
High achievers — My reflexion 🤔
In my mind, high achievers always have been the ones that managed to reach the pick of “work-life balance”. Let me develop this further because I don’t mean having a 9 to 5, 4 days a week job and perfect little family; for me, it is much more than that. (Nothing wrong with that by the way.)
High achievers are the ones that master the art of productivity. They are fulfilled at work, have a great circle around them (family and friends), can pursue a passion and with all that they still have headspace. Your passion can be linked to your work or not but basically ,they have time to invest in something they deeply care about.
I see a high achiever as someone in a functional and powerful car (like a range rover 🚙) driving on a clear road and constantly reaching little goals along the road. Basically, as long as they are driving they are achieving. They are driving within the speed limit and look proud and calm behind the wheel of their range rover. Also, notice that the car is big enough to carry around some friends and or family.
My question for you is — Is that person yet another Instagram myth? 🤳
How can we achieve that? Is it being a freelancer and going to yoga and meditation practice?📿 🙏 Ok fine, I am caricaturing here.
Basically, I set myself a goal for the coming year, to research: What is “Work-Life Balance” nowadays? and I need your help. Please share your thoughts and experience in the comments.
I have lots of questions and not many answers. I am that type of person that needs to ask a million questions before she can see the picture. I guess I will keep you posted about the development of my research.
Thank you for reading. 🙌